Change for the Future

Goldie Barajas
English 1A
10/4/10
Change for the Future
One of the things that I criticize the most in people is when they exaggerate or create unnecessary drama about insignificant arguments. However, when it came to my own personal experiences with my ex-boyfriends, I was always the one to worsen the arguments by being dramatic. In my past relationships with boys, I noticed that not staying calm and exaggerating about an argument would make the argument worse rather than solving it. I would like my future relationships with boys to be healthier in the way that I can manage to control the dramatic side of me. Therefore, what I wish I could change about myself is the tendency to exaggerate when it comes to arguing with boys, with who I have an emotional bond with, because it triggers stress in me and it hurts the relationship.
Being dramatic about arguments with my ex-boyfriends was and still is stressful for me. I tend to turn a little argument into a huge one, which causes me to be stressed until I resolve it. When I am stressed it is difficult for me to concentrate and get homework or other tasks done. I feel frustrated and helpless at the fact that I cannot get my tasks done because I am thinking about what is stressing me. I want this cycle to stop because it is not healthy for me when an argument tenses me enough to impede me from accomplishing my daily tasks. Also, stress triggers me to be depressed, which is bad for my emotional health. I do not wish to feel overwhelmed by stress and so this is one of the reasons why I would like to change my tendency to exaggerate about insignificant arguments with boys.
In addition, the second reason why I would like to change my tendency to aggravate my arguments with boys is that exaggerating hurts my relationship with that significant other. When I turn a little argument into a huge dramatic one instead of creating a strong bond with that person, I create a weak one, which results in me complaining about the relationship. I am the kind of person that likes to feel secure when in a relationship with a boy. If there is a weak bond between that boy and me, then I am not secure enough and being with that person is hurtful for me.
My relationships with a significant other should be about enjoying one another to the fullest and being able to be happy most of the time. I realized I was not able to have that kind of relationship because of the bad habit I have of being dramatic about arguments too much. I would place unnecessary emphasis on the discussions I had with my ex-boyfriends, to the point where my past relationships were not healthy anymore. I am glad that I know what I wish I could change about myself because this empowers me to change that in my future relationships and keep myself from being constantly hurt and avoid unwanted stress.